10 Laws of Boundaries
The 10 Laws of Boundaries have been adapted to make them BPD informed so families and friends can work on these principles and be better able to support their loved one with BPD.
These laws are based on the concept of the importance of considering our behaviour in order to lead a more mindful, compassionate life for ourselves and for others. When we broaden our understanding of the concept of boundaries, it helps us understand ourselves (and others) better. When we understand, it is easier to change how we do things. We can learn how to be proactive instead of reactive.
Setting boundaries is a tool we can use to improve our relationships with others. It is about accepting the challenge to change what we can change, and gives us the strength to accept that we can’t change others. To identify when we need to consider our boundaries, look at the relationships where we are unhappy. If we are unhappy in a relationship, we need to work on our boundaries.
The 10 Laws of Boundaries -Excerpted from "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life" Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend.
The 10 Laws of Boundaries from a BPD perspective, are described below.
Hover over each picture to see what each law is called and click to access that law.
